Self Sabotage: Causes - Fear of Competency

Some of us fear that if we ever establish just how competent and capable we are, that some of the supports that have been there for us in our lives may disappear. People that were there for us in the past may take the attitude that we are able to “go it alone” if they find out just how able we are. Likewise, if people find out how capable we are, they may have higher expectations of what we can do – for ourselves and for them. Instead of taking care of us, they may now expect us to take care of them. Sabotaging ourselves keeps people close to us and taking care of us.