Self Sabotage: Causes - Fear of Disappointment

Some of us keep our goals low so we won’t be disappointed. What we fail to realize is that not attaining what we truly want in life is disappointing too, often in a way that is much more detrimental. If you try for something and don’t attain it, at least you know you tried. How many of us mourn the opportunities that we threw away because we didn’t even show up for them? These are the disappointments that truly harm us. Failing to attempt to attain our goals confirms our feelings of inadequacy and our belief that we are not capable of getting what we want. This further exacerbates already low self esteems and works to perpetuate even more self sabotaging behavior.