Procrastination: Why We Do It - Passive Aggressiveness

A lot of people cannot tolerate confrontation. So they smile and nod and agree to do things which, in fact, they have no intention of doing. Procrastination may be their way of inadvertently avoiding conflict while not doing what was requested either.

People will also go along with things with which they actually disagree to avoid disapproval, criticism, or withdrawal of love. If they are in a relationship with an abuser, they may do it to keep the peace or avoid a violent outburst.

The solution to this problem is very difficult. If you grew up in a violent or abusive home, confrontation may be really scary for you. But it is essential that you learn to stand up for yourself and say, “No”. It’s necessary for your self-esteem and to end your procrastinating so you can get where you want in life. Seek help from people who are around you and are supportive. It may also be necessary to seek counseling for assistance in overcoming this particular habit. A counselor will be someone on whom it is safe to practice standing up to and saying, “No” to. They can also help you develop strategies and techniques for learning to confront people in a healthy, non-violent manner.